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Friday, March 18, 2011

Am I judgemental?

Recently I was asked if I care about what people do, how they old, where they live or come from, if I care about that in a 'dating' situation?  Well, funny you should ask, and funny because of course I would have a lot of thoughts about this, being the obsessive compulsive thinker that I am...
The person who asked me was a musician and from London.  Very cool guy.  Anyway, his response was 'no', he could care less what a girl did, how old she was, what her story was, he only cared if she was a good person or not.  Aaaaaahhhhhh, so nice to hear, refreshing since we live in LA, and not the norm I don't think.  Aaaaaaahhhhh.
Then it was my turn to answer, me being the jaded, cynical, bitter, wiser (if I do say), bitch (if i do say)...'hmmmmmmmmmm', my normal response to a question that needs some thought...I went on to explain, well, I wouldn't want to date an actor...I have done so in the past, and the stereotypical actor is a bit narcissistic, a bit full of themselves, a bit selfish, some are players, some are just plain stupid...you get the point, but I wouldn't want to date an actor!  Also, you might be asking for a life of ups and downs and all arounds with the insecurity of work and paychecks and 'all of that'.  And I jump to 'all of that' because I am one of those girls who is not going to just date someone for the fun of it.  Dating is work dammit, and there has to be a goal in mind, whether it marriage, kids, companionship, boy toy, whatever, there has to be a reason you go out with someone and not just 'cuz'...but yeah, I know I have issues :)
I also wouldn't go out with anyone a lot younger than me...yes I know, weird again, but I don't enjoy feeling older, or going out with someone who has yet to experience a lot of things I experienced, or is still in school paying dues, or whatever, sorry, I am a bitch, but I don't wanna go there.  I don't want to go out with people extremely older either, no need to explain I hope!  I don't want to go out with drug addicts, smokers, alcoholics, people in recovery mode like AA, people that don't have a job, people that don't know what they are doing, people that don't shave, people that don't shower, and the list goes on and on and on...I wasn't trying to scare the guy away, I wasn't even trying to be judgmental in any way, I was just saying, from my past, from my experiences in life, this is what I have come to know and have come to see what works for me...and the whole reason for the conversation, I am guessing, was because I think he was insecure, being a musician himself, if I had a judgement or not about him.  No, not him, I got to know him, he was a pianist and horn player, and there was no judgement whatsoever.  Now if he were a drummer, however...:)
I wonder if I will ever here from him again? :)

~Jenn

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